Thursday, November 29, 2012

Anonymous

So you may think this is your typical "OMG did you see what Anonymous commented on my post yesterday???" post....

....but it's not.

Yesterday marked my first ever blog post with hateful comments. Only, the hateful comments weren't only by anonymous commenters.

First, let me start by saying that I can respect anonymous commenters. Maybe it's the social worker in me. I can completely understand someone's desire for confidentiality. Nowhere in this world of blogging does it state that you must reveal your name. Also, who says that all anonymous commenters are bloggers? Could it be that Anonymous is a non-blogger who likes to read blogs while passing time at the office? Just a thought...

Those of you who may not have seen it, here's the big, bad anonymous comment that got everyone and their mom's fired up yesterday:

"Your blog is one of my favorites but I am really disappointed that you sold out and wore those heinous shorts. Its December in Michigan, who thinks shorts like this are a good idea? Would you ever really wear these in real life? I think not!"

I wasn't the least bit offended by this comment. In fact, I welcomed it as someone's honest opinion, and I can respect that. Nowhere in that comment did Anonymous attack another person. He/She was simply stating that they did not like the shorts. What's so wrong with that? We're all individuals. We have different likes, dislikes, styles, etc. It's okay for someone to dislike what you're wearing! If we all liked the same thing, then style wouldn't be what it is; an expression of ourselves.

What I was offended by were the responses to said anonymous comment. I was appalled, actually. In my opinion, some of those responses were textbook cyber bullying. Hateful things were said about a person for a comment they made about A PAIR OF SHORTS. If that's not ridiculous, then I don't know what is.

I welcome anonymous commenters with open arms. If you don't want everyone on the internet knowing your name, I respect that! If you want to express your honest opinion about material I post on my blog without having me or others know who you are, then do it! As long as your anonymous comment does not attack another person, I'm not going to have an issue with it.

With that being said, if I receive another hateful comment on one of my blog posts, I will delete it. I don't care if you're "Anonymous" or if you "have the balls" to use your real name, I don't discriminate when it comes to cyber bullying. My blog is a place for me to write about whatever I want and a place for my readers to express their honest opinion about my material. I refuse to let anyone be bullied on my blog.

I may lose some followers because of this post, but so be it. My morals are more important to me than that number on my sidebar.

Check yo'self before you wreck yo'self!

14 comments:

julia rose. said...

"My morals are more important to me than that number on my sidebar." You. Go. Girl.
Loved this. Everyone deserves the right to voice their opinion. We knowww we don't all agree on things- we're girls, we're not supposed to!! And PS- your social workin' side totally just came out... and I LOVE IT!

Jazmine said...

WOW!!!!
Don't let anyone bully you my dear.
xoxo

i loved the shorts ;)

Jasmine said...

Go Jenna, go go go Jenna!

On a fun side note, you rocked those shorts.

On a less fun side note, people on the interwebz scare the crap out of me sometimes. The lack of mind to finger filter worries me.

That wasn't meant to be dirty. It's a little dirty but in a fun way!

Xx

P.S I wanted to put a winking smiley after that little tangent but that seemed way too sleazy. So I'll just do it now ;)

Jenstar_Blonde said...

Well done for this post lovely!! :) Can I just say though the shorts were awesome! Also can i just add why would you not wear them?! I would totally wear them on a night out with tights and its like -3 here in scotland at night!!

But i agree everyone is allowed their own opinion, however i do think the whole "why would anyone wear them?" was not really needed.

Love ya Jenna!!!

Jen xxx

Erin said...

Wel done lady. I'm glad you posted this! I too didn't think the anonymous comment warranted all of the bashing it received. I realize out blogger network has an innate reaction to standing up for our fellow bloggy friends but lets be sure that before we jump down someone's back it's for good reason...and yesterday was not for good reason. She didn't like the shorts and it surely is cold - so flipping what.

Kate said...

You go girl! I'm always impressed with the sophistication some bloggers handle rude comments to themselves or other commenters, and yours is one of the best. On another note, I loved the shorts and thought you wore them well :)

Carolyn said...

Good for you! I completely agree with everything you wrote in this post!

Recently Roached said...

Rude comments are the worst. They totally ruin my day. BUT think about it this way, that person probably didn't have a lot going on in her life... I mean, who takes the time to write out why you shouldn't wear shorts? Who stinkin' cares.

You've got a great attitude, Jenna. (It's weird spelling my name with two n's.) Keep your chin up because so many bloggy girls love you and your adorbale shorts! :)

Stephanie said...

I loved your outfit yesterday, but I love this post more.

Bullying in general is such a huge problem and when people actually stand up it makes my heart smile. Definitely the social worker side of you :)

Kalie said...

I'm right there with the other girls. Good for you for writing this Jenna.I read some of the comments yesterday and was thinking to myself that it got awfully mean pretty fast. I too didn't really think what the original anonymous wrote was that terrible of a thing. I sure wouldn't wear shorts in this weather! :)

Meghan said...

I didn't see the post but I can agree with everything you said! I feel the same way about Anonymous commenters (probably because the ones I get are usually from my dad because he doesn't know what he's doing, ha!). I appreciate your honesty and willingness to post your feelings!

Helene said...

people are so weird, why they do that I don't know. I agree with this so much. and really it means you are doing your thang and people should not step on that!!

Ashley Mitchell said...

I can completely agree with you I thought people's responses were worse than what anomn said in the first place. Hurt my heart to see what people I thought were so wonderful bring out the ugly. Way to stand up do you an your blog girl!

ty said...

I applaud you. What was said in response to that comment was more appalling than the comment itself. As women, I think we're very reactionary, even where it doesn't concern us. Kudos to you, girl :)